Six principles discipline checklist

You can use this six principles discipline checklist when dealing with your child's behaviour.

Love and warmth

  • Does my child know that it's their behaviour, not them that I don't like?
  • Is my child scared of me, am I calm enough?

  • How do I show them I love them?

Talking and listening

  • Have I said clearly how I want my child to behave?
  • Have I listened to them?

Guidance and understanding

  • Does my child understand why that behaviour is not ok?
  • Do they see how their behaviour has affected others?

  • Have I helped them to work out better ways to get what they need?

Limits and boundaries

  • Has my child broken a clear, simple rule they already knew about?
  • Is my child capable of doing what is expected or am asking too much for their age?

  • Have I reminded them of the rules?

Consistency and consequences

  • Do I behave in the way I want my child to behave?
  • Do I respond the same way each time I see this behaviour?
  • Is this consequence:
    • related to the behaviour?
    • reasonable for my child's ability?

    • respectful?

A structured secure world

  • Does my child's life have enough routine and predictability to help them know what to expect?